Good morning, great people. Today, I came across an exciting video on TikTok. The man in the video was upset and ranted that his wife has a pair of lazy hands.
The guy said that he leaves the house daily at 6.00 am for work. He returns home around 7.00 pm. Sadly, when he gets home after working all day, he finds the house messy, no food, the kids dirty, the pets hungry, etc.
Apparently, the wife is so lazy that she spends most of her time on her phone or TV. She has a pair of lazy hands. When the husband complains, she says that she’s not a maid or servant.
So, the husband works all day, and when he gets home, he tries to clean up, fix dinner, etc.
That video inspired me to write this post. I dedicate this post to all the stay-at-home women.
Woe Unto the Woman With a Pair of Lazy Hands
Suppose you’re a stay-at-home wife/mother. In that case, your husband leaves you at home as he goes to work to provide for the family.
That basically means that he is the main provider and you’re the homemaker. Your roles are clearly defined. If you want to have a happy and peaceful home, each of you must pull your weight. Period!
I don’t know why some women feel like being a stay-at-home wife/mom is a demeaning role. In my view, it’s a powerful, noble, and honorable role.
Why Being a Stay-at-home Wife/Mum is Powerful, Noble, and Honorable
It’s hard to put into words the important role a stay-at-home wife/mum plays. Well, let me try to explain.
You are the CEO of your home
Running a home is like running a company, and more. When you’re a stay-at-home wife/mum, your responsibility is heavy, just like a CEO in a company.
You plan, budget, manage time, procure, ensure maintenance, offer leadership… the list is endless.
So, don’t underestimate or look down on your role. You’re more important than the CEOs of major companies.
You are the homemaker
When you’re a stay-at-home wife/mom, you’re the homemaker. You’re at the very heart of your household’s soul. You have a home to care for, children to nurture, a marriage to protect, and more.
As a homemaker, you carry the unspoken weight of unnoticed labor – your work is unending and heavy.
Most often, people in your household may not notice or appreciate your work because it’s unseen labor. However, your work matters. It’s holy work and heaven sees.
You are among the quiet hands shaping the future generation
As a stay-at-home mom, you contribute in ways you can’t fathom in shaping the future of your children. Your children are the future generation.
Your work may often not make headlines. Your efforts may go un-celebrated or unnoticed. However, the love, discipline, and values you instill in your children largely determine who your children become in the future.
So, remember that your work matters. It has a deep and lasting impact.
Your legacy will live on for generations to come.
Putting your family first is sacrificial and noble
As a stay-at-home wife/mom, you may have sacrificed your career, ambitions, and social life to focus fully on supporting your family. You could also be a stay-at-home wife/mom due to a lack of employment or other reasons.
Putting the needs of your family first is no mean feat. That’s what true nobility is about. You should clap for yourself.
So, I urge you not to view your work as a stay-at-home wife/mom as failure or a maid’s or servant’s work. It’s your career for now, and it’s noble.
In addition, it’s your way of supporting your partner and contributing to a successful marriage and home.
If each of you doesn’t pull their weight, things can go terribly wrong in the home.
What Happens When A Woman Has A Pair Of Lazy Hands?
You now know why being a stay-at-home wife/mum is a powerful, noble, and honorable career. It has nothing to do with being someone’s slave, maid, etc.
So, this is a career that has no room for laziness. Woe unto you if you are a woman with a pair of lazy hands.
Here’s what could happen if you have a lazy pair of hands as a stay-at-home woman.
Everything around you begins to fall apart
Your role as a woman in the home is to create a rhythm that other members of your household can follow. You’re like the invisible thread that ties everything together. You make the house a livable place.
So, when your hands become lazy, the home starts to fall apart. The falling apart may not always be loud. Sometimes it happens silently, softly, and slowly.
Your home starts to reflect your laziness
When you’re a lazy stay-at-home wife/mom, people can tell that you’re lazy.
Here’s how your home reflects your laziness:
- Dishes start to pile up in the sink and all over the house.
- Clutter begins to grow like a weed.
- The nutrition of your family suffers because you no longer want to cook.
- Dirt and filth build up around the entire house and outdoors.
Your home becomes lifeless
You see, your home responds to the energy you pour into it. So, when you become lazy, your home reflects it. When you stop caring for your home, it stops feeling like home to you, your children, and your husband.
The atmosphere around your home becomes dull. There is no warmth, music, or laughter in the house, just walls. You drain the life from the home, and it becomes lifeless.
Your children start to mirror your laziness
Children learn mostly from what they see. If they have a lazy mother, they’re likely to become lazy too. There’s a saying that, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
If you train your children to be lazy from an early age, they’re likely to carry that into adulthood.
Your partner starts to feel overwhelmed
If your husband is doing his part of providing for the family, it’s only fair that you do your part. Your part is to take care of the home and the family.
It would be unfair to expect your husband to work all day and then come to a home that feels abandoned physically and emotionally.
Even if your partner is the most loving and understanding person, he needs your support to make the home, family, and marriage a success.
Remember that marriage is a partnership. Both of you must pull your weight to make it a success.
Your work as a stay-at-home wife/mom brings order, stability, and peace in the home. He brings in the bacon. Your home then thrives.
It’s a win-win for both of you.
Your laziness affects even your pets
The above statement reminds me of my late mother. She used to tell me that even pets suffer in a lazy woman’s home.
The mess in the home, lack of cooked food, etc, makes the pets feel neglected. They become hungry, malnourished, and unkempt.
The pets become withdrawn, unruly, and anxious. Those are some of the tell-tale signs of neglected and miserable pets.
You may begin to feel hollow and empty
When you become a lazy woman, it affects your life. For instance, discipline flies out of the window. You take naps, spend a lot of time on screens, and leave chores undone or half-done. You may also end up neglecting your personal hygiene due to laziness.
Before long, the woman who once had goals, purpose, routines, and dreams begins to feel empty and hollow.
Why? It’s not because there’s anything wrong with being a stay-at-home. It’s because your laziness makes you feel like you’re in a prison.
If you’re not careful, the feeling of hollowness and emptiness can gradually affect your self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem.
Read: 10 Awesome Self-care Tips for Moms: Give Yourself Some TLC Because You Deserve It.
Your home eventually becomes a source of stress for everyone, including yourself
As I said earlier, a home responds to the energy you pour into it as a woman. For instance, when filth accumulates in your home, the air starts becoming heavy, stale, and unbearable.
The lack of home-cooked meals makes everybody, including the pets, hungry and miserable.
Over time, all of you start to feel the weight of your laziness. You could all become stressed in the long run.
By the way, even visitors avoid a dirty home.
How To Stop Being A Lazy Woman
Are you naturally lazy, or have you become lazy recently? You’re not a bad or evil woman.
The good news is that you can stop being a lazy woman by taking small baby steps. You see, when you take small steps, you start to create and build momentum. With time, you achieve your potential.
Here are things you can do to make your hands active again:
- Put away your phone – only use it when necessary.
- Switch off the TV and computer/laptop – use them after you’ve done some useful work.
- Set small, daily goals – you don’t have to do everything all at once.
- Make your bed.
- Organize one drawer.
- Wash some dishes.
- Cook the simplest meal for your family.
- Read something that motivates you.
- Do small acts of kindness for your family – hug them, stroke the pet, serve your partner a cup of coffee, etc.
Final Thoughts
When, as a woman, you use your hands to take care of your home, it has nothing to do with the traditional gender roles. In addition, you’re not being a slave or a maid.
In essence, you’re just playing your rightful role in the home. You’re pulling your weight just as your partner is pulling his.
If you have a pair of lazy hands that make you neglect your home, partner, and children, you’re not a bad or evil person. However, you’re wasting your power!
You were not created to be lazy or passive. You were meant to be a homemaker, a nurturer, a manager, a helper, and to breathe life into ordinary things in your home and your life.
Your role and work in the home is a blessing, not a curse. It’s sacred, to say the least.
So, take up your rightful role in your home, my dear, and all will be well with you! Woe unto you if you choose to remain with a pair of lazy hands. Cheers!
Also read: A Mother’s Love.
